People in relationships who frequently falsely accuse their spouses or significant others for no reason are usually insecure people or are doing dishonest things themselves.
How to Handle Being Wrongfully Accused
By
crossroad, eHow Member
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Being wrongfully accused of something you did not do is a frustrating experience. Whether it is your spouse accusing you of having an affair or being accused of doing something criminal and illegal, there are steps that you can take to help you deal with the situation in a proper manner.
Instructions
Remain calm and do
not get irate or upset with the individual who is making false
accusations. If it is a loved one that you are dealing with, try to
determine what is making them think that you have done what you are
being accused of. It may stem from their lack of trust or your recent
actions that were perceived in the wrong way. If someone is accusing you
of doing something illegal, remain silent, document what is being told
to you, and seek legal counsel immediately.
Provide your loved
one with factual information or proof that their accusations are wrong.
Determine if their accusations are based on their own irrational
thinking. If you are being accused of something illegal you should also
provide your
Give your accuser
time and space to cool off if he is over reacting, using irrational
thinking, and refuses to listen to you. Ask yourself if this is the
first time this person has acted out like this and falsely accused you,
or if their actions are consistent behavioral patterns in your
relationship that need to be addressed with a professional neutral
party.
Identify and use
credible witnesses who can speak on your behalf regarding the situation.
When dealing with a false criminal accusation, you will also want
persons that know you to write positive letters on your behalf regarding
your character and the type of person you are. These letters can be from
the people you work with, neighbors, family, friends and church members.
Seek out a support system or talk with a private counselor who can help you deal with your own emotions and anger about being falsely accused. Talk with people who have been in the same circumstances who can provide insight on how to handle the situation as well as a source of comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
Tips & Warnings
People in relationships who frequently falsely accuse their spouses or significant others for no reason are usually insecure people or are doing dishonest things themselves.
If and when you are continuously accused by your spouse or significant other for no apparent reason, you may want to consider getting out of the relationship.
Never talk to the police without having legal counsel present, even if and when you are innocent, the police will use information that you provide against you. It doesn't seem fair, but the truth can actually hurt you when used against you.
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